Have you ever wondered why you keep being drawn to the same type of person—even when it hasn’t worked out before? Sometimes what we call “chemistry” is actually just familiarity. For many of us with father wounds, our attractions aren’t random. They’re shaped by what we saw, what we lacked, and what we’re still trying to subconsciously repair.
But here’s the good news: you don’t have to stay stuck in those cycles. With awareness, healing, and God’s truth, you can change not only who you’re drawn to—but also what you believe you deserve.
About This Episode
In today’s episode we’re exploring how father wounds shape our “default” patterns of attraction—and how we can begin to break free from them.
We’ll talk about:
Recognising your patterns – how your defaults may reflect unfinished business with your father figure.
Attraction vs. familiarity – why drama and inconsistency can feel magnetic, while safe love can feel “boring.”
Breaking the cycle – learning to pause before pursuing, reframing what you desire, and inviting God into your attractions.
Becoming what you attract – cultivating self-respect, setting boundaries, and retraining your heart to desire healthy love.
This isn’t about shaming yourself for past choices. It’s about recognising patterns with compassion and stepping into freedom with God’s help.
Reflection
What types of people have I been drawn to in the past?
Do I confuse chaos with passion and consistency with boredom?
How can I begin to align my heart with what is truly good for me, instead of what feels familiar?
Scripture
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” – Romans 12:2
This renewal includes your patterns of attraction. Healing allows you to desire what God desires for you: love that is safe, steady, and true.
Listen Now
If you’ve ever felt stuck in repeating the same story in your relationships, this episode will help you see where those patterns come from—and how to start changing them.
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